They say it's not what you know but who you know, and when it comes to

getting the most out of life and having fun, I think friends play a

huge part in that. If I think back to

some of the happiest and craziest moments in my life, there's no doubt

that they involved some of my closest friends.

I've already written a guide on how to make friends

and being a social person is obviously going to help with this aspect

of your life. Additionally, these five points below should definitely

help you in the process of growing your social circle.

Adopt an Abundance Mentality


key reason people struggle to make great friends or build a social

circle is because they are coming from a scarcity mindset. They don't

realize that there are literally billions of potential friends out

there and lots of people that you are going to meet on your journey

through life.

Knowing that there are lots of opportunities to

make friends, you should realize that you don't have to 'change' to get

other people to like you. In other words, don't lie about your

interests and don't agree with things you disagree with. Be yourself,

be your best self.

Actively Pursue Your Passions
Think of some things that you really enjoy doing right now, off the top of your head. To help, some of mine include:

  • Public speaking
  • Going to nightclubs
  • Personal development
  • DJing / Making music

Once you know the things that you like to do, you should actively pursue those passions. If you like public speaking then join Toastmasters, if you like making music then sign-up to a college / university course or go online and find other people who like it as well.


point here is that you will find people who like the same things as

you, so you already have some common interest which tends to quickly

build rapport. Meetup is a great site to find people getting together around topics that may interest you.

Organize Events

like to keep in touch with the person who is always throwing cool

events. Whether it is a trip to a nearby city, a house party or a day

out go-karting, make some plans. You don't have to do all the work, but

get people together and put new people in touch with each other.


you do organise some events, it's likely that your friends will also

bring their friends that you haven't met, which gives you a great

chance to expand your 'network'.

Be a Genuinely Fun Person
There will be times when you are feeling low and you want to talk about this feeling to others and that's fine, that's normal.

However, if that is your default state then it's going to feel draining

to others who spend time with you, constantly feeling they are going to

be brought down with you.

A genuinely fun person tends to keep a

positive outlook, see problems as situations or opportunities, rather

than problems. Look at ways you can help to make other people happy

without relying on your own happiness to come from your environment.

This is a genuinely fun person and this is the type of person that people want to be around.

Be Open to Making New Friends

I look at some of my best friends, I've met most of them through

education (i.e. school, college, etc.) and through my job which seems

to be a common thing. However, I've also met people that later became

close friends at the likes of running clubs, speaking clubs and even

standing in the line for a nightclub.

You don't 'just' have to

make friends through your current friends and the people they know. You

walk past amazing people every single day and you never know when you

might come into conversation with someone. Don't assume that just

because you're not talking to someone in normal context it doesn't mean

you can't arrange to meet up with them at another time.


a social circle is definitely one of the best ways to get the most out

of life in my opinion, and experience more of our time here. Hopefully

these tips will help you expand yours.

Written on 4/02/2009 by Glen Allsop. Glen writes on the subject of Personal Development at PluginID. His sites main aim is to help people Plug into their Identity, be who they want to be, and live the life they want to live.Photo Credit: