At the foot of the Hill of the Muses in Athens, classical music fills the apartment where Cihan Tutluoglu lives with his husband Alexandros Massavetas.

The couple's bookshelves are lined with volumes celebrating the history and culture of both Tutluoglu's native Turkey and Massavetas's Greece, and paintings of Athens and Istanbul adorn the walls.

Diplomatic ties between the historic rival nations are once again strained over conflicting eastern Mediterranean border and energy claims.

But couples like 44-year-old Massavetas, who is a writer, and Tutluoglu, a 38-year-old economics journalist, are used to distancing themselves from their countries' disputes.

"We define ourselves more as citizens of the world," says Tutluoglu.

Greek national Alexandros Massavetas (left) and Cihan Tutluoglu of Turkey are pictured in their Athens home
Greek national Alexandros Massavetas (left) and Cihan Tutluoglu of Turkey are pictured in their Athens home AFP / ANGELOS TZORTZINIS

Conservative mentalities and the pressure of influential religious factions on both sides of the border pushed the two men to live abroad for several years.

"For a long time we wanted to escape our countries," says Massavetas, "we felt like we were suffocating."

"I belong to a country that no longer exists," says Tutluoglu, referring to Turkey as he left it 15 years ago.

In a mixture of French and English the couple describe interwoven ancestral pasts with forebears first Ottoman subjects then refugees, some to escape the massacres of Muslims in Greece, the others driven out of Turkey.

They say they've received only support from relatives since they first met in an Istanbul synagogue in 2003, and throughout their 17 years of courtship before their marriage -- even if Tutluoglu admits to sometimes walking on eggshells.

"Sometimes I have to restrain myself on social or political subjects because I'm still 'the Turk' here," he says.

Sukru Ilicak (right) pictured with his Greek partner Olga Antonea, says he discovered Greece in the 90s through rebetiko -- a musical genre created by Greek refugees in exile 
Sukru Ilicak (right) pictured with his Greek partner Olga Antonea, says he discovered Greece in the 90s through rebetiko -- a musical genre created by Greek refugees in exile  AFP / ANGELOS TZORTZINIS

Ankara and Athens's tug of war over maritime borders, natural gas deposits and the migrant crisis has intensified in recent weeks with Greek Foreign Minister Nikos Dendias travelling to Turkey on Thursday for talks on maritime border disputes.

Merve Kocadal, who is 28 and works in a call centre, met her Greek boyfriend 32-year-old Yorgos Taliadorous on a dating app in 2017 when the two were in Cyprus, an island that is still a point of tension between the two countries.

Located at the outer limits of Europe in the Mediterranean, one third of Cyprus has been occupied by Turkey since 1974 after a coup aimed at uniting the island with Greece.

Theodoros Smpiliris (left) and Ayca Kolukisa distance themselves from their countries' disputes
Theodoros Smpiliris (left) and Ayca Kolukisa distance themselves from their countries' disputes AFP / ANGELOS TZORTZINIS

Kocadal says the island is "the main point of friction" between her and her beloved's family.

"Some conversations are tense and voices can rise," she says carefully, "but that takes nothing away from the love we have for each other."

She is Muslim and he is Orthodox Christian and the couple wishes to marry without a religious ceremony since neither of them plans to convert -- despite wishes from both their families for any future children to be "Muslim" or "baptised within the church".

Aeronautics engineers Theodoros Smpiliris and Ayca Kolukisa were married in a civil ceremony in Greece in 2019 before throwing a festive celebration in Turkey.

"For my parents it doesn't matter that Theo is Greek or Orthodox. What is important is that he is a good person," says Kolukisa.

Smpiliris, for his part, admits to having come a long way as far as his views on Turkey.

"At school, history books created resentment. We grew up with the idea that Turkey was the enemy," he says.

Some political or religious subjects remain sore among family and friends, such as Turkish President Recep Tayyip Erdogan's 2020 decision to convert the Hagia Sophia museum and former basilica to a mosque.

"But all you have to do is talk to each other and listen to each other to bring the tension down," says Smpiliris.

The couple recently launched an Instagram profile called "Ouzo and Loukoum" in order to "show Greeks the beauty of Turkey and Turks the treasures of Greece," says Kolukisa.

"Our family is like a bridge between the two countries," Smpiliris says.

Researcher and Turkish native Sukru Ilicak discovered Greece in the 90s through rebetiko -- a musical genre created by Greek refugees in exile.

He moved to Greece permanently when he married his partner Olga Antonea, a graphic designer, in 2016.

"We share the same values and the same politics," says the 49-year-old. "Diplomatic relations aren't going to influence our relationship.

"If we can have a Greco-Turkish love story, why should it be any different on a larger scale between our countries?"