Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger has sparked an outrage after making some offensive comments on Bravo's Watch What Happens Live Sunday night.
When a viewer called for Stanger's advice on long-distance monogamy, she immediately launched into a non-sequitor tirade about the gay men and monogamy.
In the gay world, there's always going to be open, she said to the caller. Are you gay or straight? Gay. Then you're OK. There is no curbing the gay ... I try to curb you people. I've decided to throw in the towel and say do what you want, but when you find the right person, you will know. You're not going to want to go on Grinder and all those other sites.
The camera periodically cut back to Bravo executive producer and WWHL host Andy Cohen -- who is openly gay -- while Stanger was making the questionable comments. Cohen twisted up his face and cocked his head around in reaction.
I'm gay and I'm down with monogamy, Cohen said when Stanger paused. She immediately laughed in his face, and demanded to know when he last had a boyfriend.
That wasn't all. When a male caller Skyped WWTL with a question about finding a committed relationship with another man in Los Angeles, Stanger offended Cohen and her viewers again.
First of all, you're very handsome. I thought you were straight, she said. That's a compliment!
Cohen repeated the same facial expression from earlier, and asked. Why is being straight a compliment?
Because he's not queeny, Stanger said. Like you want a queen. Right, I don't think so.
At another point in the show, Stanger declared that Jewish men lie -- further offending her host, who is Jewish (incidientally, so is Stanger).
Stanger had previously made some questionable comment in an interview with New York Live that could potentially offend both men and women, gay or straight: [Men] like [smart women] after marriage. They don't like them before they are married. You got to dumb it down a little because men are not that bright.
It is unclear if alcohol may have contributed to the politically incorrect rant on the show. WWHL is known for providing alcoholic drinks to its guests, and drinking games are often incorporated into the show. Still, Stanger is vigilant about the effects of alcohol on a person's behavior, and enforces a strict two drink maximum at all of her mixer events, and insists that her clients follow the same guidelines on dates (they habitually ignore this advice).
Stanger initially defended her stereotyping with more sterotyping. Early Monday, she tweeted: Gay men love variety. Customary 4 them to hook up 1st, get to know the man after. Commitment's hard when there's so much variety.
Shortly afterward, she tweeted again: Attn male Gays: I support you & my comment on WWHL was to a LA guy who can't find commitment.
Finally, several hours later, Stanger offered this lukewarm mea cupla on Twitter: So sorry - didn't mean to offend anyone. Love you all. X0
Since then, she has moved on to other topics on Twitter.
Perhaps in recognition that some would view Stanger's sort-of apology as inadequate, the network issued a statement to The Hollywood Reporter:
Bravo regrets the comments expressed by Patti Stanger on Watch What Happens Live last night. Her comments are not representative of the network's beliefs and opinions. We apologize for the offense it caused, the statement read.
Stanger has previously featured gay couples on Millionaire Matchmaker and has not appeared to be particularly homophobic on the show -- she is an equal opportunity offendor, and routinely insults both the millionaires and the men and women who are trying to date them. Those familiar with the show were not all that surprised, and some posted their reactions on Twitter:
@timcarvell: It's sad, because I used to think Patti Stanger was really smart and insightful about human relationships. -- absolutely no one
@maureenoco: Good thing Patti Stanger finally insulted some men, or we never would have known how inappropriate she is.
@boogdogDC: Why is it news that Patti Stanger was/is offensive? That's Patti.
Andy Cohen has yet to comment publicly on the controversy.
Watch a clip from Watch What Happens Live here:
And watch a preview of Stanger defending her comments on the Joy Behar show, which airs Tuesday, by clicking on this Gawker link.