KEY POINTS

  • Eva Mendes shared a message from Latinx Parenting about raising empowered kids
  • Mendes said she wasn't as active on social media because one of her daughters told her she was "on the phone too much"
  • Ryan Gosling's partner said she realized that being at home doesn't mean she's always present

Eva Mendes believes that parents should not feel disrespected when their children call them out when they do something wrong—something she has experienced firsthand with her own kids.

On Saturday, the 46-year-old actress took to Instagram to share a message about empowered children from the organization Latinx Parenting and reveal that she was told by one of her two daughters with her partner Ryan Gosling that she was on the phone too much.

"Let your kids call you out. It's not disrespect. It's healthy," the message from Latinx Parenting read. "Kids can be so fiercely aligned with their value that they will take nothing less than the respect they deserve. They will take no BS. Not even from you. Congratulations, you are raising an empowered child."

Mendes, who is mother to Esmeralda Amada, 6, and Amada Lee, 4, found the post to be a good reminder for parents. In the caption, the "2 Fast 2 Furious" star revealed that after she was told by one of her children that she was spending too much time on her phone, she realized she needed to reduce her own screen time, which is why she has not been active on social media lately.

"Thank you to @latinxparenting for this important reminder," she wrote. "I haven’t posted lately because my little one told me I was on the phone too much. I could tell she was taking it personally."

She continued, "And she’s a kid, of course she’d take it personally. They take things personally unless we go out of our way to make it clear to them it’s not personal."

Mendes said she apologized to her daughter and was grateful for the reminder that she needed to put away distractions in order to be present more in her children's day to day lives.

"So we had good talk, I apologized and I promised her I’d be mindful. I realized that just because I’m always home with them doesn’t mean I’m always present," she concluded.

The post received mixed responses from other Instagram users. One expressed gratitude to her own mother for encouraging her to speak up and communicate properly, revealing that she had healthy relationships with proper boundaries because of the way she was raised.

However, some did not agree with Mendes. "Being raised by traditional Hispanic parents it wasn’t happening, we’d get smacked or punished, but I respect and love my parents so much! And I thank them everyday for not allowing me treat them bad in any type of way but to each their own I guess," one user wrote.

Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling
TORONTO, ON - SEPTEMBER 07: Actors Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling attend "The Place Beyond The Pines" premiere during the 2012 Toronto International Film Festival at Princess of Wales Theatre on September 7, 2012 in Toronto, Canada. (Photo by Sonia Recchia/Getty Images) Photo by Sonia Recchia/Getty Images