She is currently a Duchess and will one day be the Queen Consort after her husband ascends to the throne and becomes King. However, in order to earn that title, Kate Middleton was forced to give up some big things in her life.

According to Andrew Morton in the 2011 book “William and Catherine,” the Duchess of Cambridge was forced to “give up” her independence when she and Prince William reconciled their romance in 2007 after a brief split—and it was something that many didn’t think was the right move for her to make.

“There was, however, one casualty of this romantic reunion: Kate herself,” he wrote, before adding that her friends believed “she was giving up independence for conformity and adventure for safety.”

One of the things that she wound up giving up was her own participation in a woman-only boat race, which, after months of training, she dropped out of due to her romance getting back on track, and her friends all pleaded with her not to do it.

Race organizer Emma Sayle told Morton in the book that she begged the future Duchess to remember to do something for herself.

“Please don’t drop out. For the first time in your life you are actually doing something for yourself,” she recalled.

In addition, she also wound up no longer participating at the event at all—even to support her former teammates.

“As for Kate, it was as if the last three months of relative independence had become another country, the Sisterhood never heard from her again; not so much as a word of congratulation or a donation to the children’s charities for which the women raised more than £100,000,” he wrote.

In addition, Morton revealed that it was considered troubling that Middleton gave up her independence so quickly because, during the split, Prince William was tempted to end things for good in favor of the partying lifestyle of a bachelor.

“There was an emotional conflict while Kate had made it clear that she wanted a commitment from her man, Prince William, according to close friends, was not so sure,” he wrote. “Siren voices were calling suggesting that the grass was greener on the other side of the fence. For an unsettled suitor, temptation came in the form of his fellow officers of the Blues and Royals, nicknamed the ‘Booze and Royals.’”

However, in the end, he realized he wanted to commit to Middleton for good, and the two made a secret commitment to each other following their reunion. They went on to become engaged in 2010, married in 2011, and have also welcomed three children together.

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Catherine, Duchess of Cambridge and Prince William, Duke of Cambridge attend Easter Sunday service at St George's Chapel on April 21, 2019 in Windsor, England. Getty Images/Samir Hussein/WireImage