KEY POINTS

  • Will Smith talked about his courtship with Jada Pinkett Smith in Apple TV+'s "The Oprah Conversation"
  • The actor said the early days of their relationship were "spectacular"
  • Smith shared that he and his wife enjoy talking to each other to this day, with their conversations lasting hours at a time

Will Smith is opening up about the early days of his courtship with his now-wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, as he promotes his upcoming autobiography, "Will."

The "Men in Black" star joined Oprah Winfrey on the latest episode of Apple TV+'s "The Oprah Conversation," where the host read an excerpt from his memoir.

"We drank every day, we had sex multiple times every day for four straight months," Winfrey read, as quoted by Yahoo Entertainment. "I started to wonder if this was a competition. Either way, as far as I was concerned, there were only two possibilities: I was going to satisfy this woman sexually or I was going to die trying."

Smith told Winfrey that the early days of their relationship were "spectacular." He and Jada started dating after his divorce from his first wife, Sheree Zampino, in 1995 and tied the knot two years later.

According to the 53-year-old actor, to this day, he and his wife enjoy talking to each other, with their conversations lasting hours at a time. Smith credited their "ability to work through issues" as the key reason they have been able to sustain their marriage and stay together.

"I’ve never met another person that I connect with in conversation more blissfully and productively than Jada," Smith added.

The couple raised some eyebrows last year when August Alsina claimed to have had an affair with Jada, saying that she and her husband were in an "open relationship." The actress later admitted her affair with Alsina, calling it an "entanglement." Smith also recently stated that he had been unfaithful as well.

Even after they tied the knot in 1997, Smith and Jada never had a traditional marriage, instead opting for a relationship that focuses on "friendship versus marital prison." At one point, they even spent time apart.

"We never actually officially separated," the actor told Winfrey.

Smith pinpointed Jada's 40th birthday in 2011 as the moment things came to a head. He had spent three years planning an elaborate party — and she hated the whole thing.

According to Smith, they realized that the idea that they could make each other happy was a "fantasy illusion." So, they agreed to pursue their own happiness and return to their relationship "already happy" instead of "demanding the other person fill our empty cup."

"We just decided that you have to figure out how to be happy," Smith continued. "It was a little bit more contentious from my side. I was like, 'You go figure it out. You go figure out if you can be happy and prove to me it's even possible. I'm gonna do me and you do you.'"

Apparently, this decision worked for both of them as Smith said their time apart "helped us both to discover the power of loving in freedom."

In his September interview with GQ magazine, Smith also shared that Jada never believed in "conventional marriage" because she came from a family with an "unconventional relationship." He added that they chose to give each other "trust and freedom" as they didn't want marriage to be a "prison."

"The Oprah Conversation: Will Smith" is now streaming on Apple TV+. Smith's autobiography, "Will," will be released Tuesday.

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Actor Will Smith attends the Centerpiece Gala Premiere of Columbia Pictures' "Concussion" during AFI FEST 2015 presented by Audi at TCL Chinese Theatre on Nov. 10, 2015 in Hollywood, California. Kevin Winter/Getty Images for AFI