After a rocky few years, Selena Gomez is finally in a better place and feeling stronger than ever. In a new interview, the “Look at Her Now” singer opened up about her break up with Justin Bieber, and how the relationship affected her.

Gomez dated Bieber on and off from 2010 until 2018. The two reportedly split for good in March 2018, and by September of that year, the “Sorry” singer married Hailey Baldwin.

During an interview with Lulu Garcia-Navarro for NPR’s Weekend Edition, Gomez reflected on how her new album, “Rare,” became a diary about her experiences over the last few years.

When the reporter asked Gomez if she considers her relationship with Bieber to be one of the harder parts of her life, she revealed that she grew from the pain.

“No, because I’ve found the strength in it. It’s dangerous to stay in a victim mentality. And I’m not being disrespectful, I do feel I was a victim to certain abuse,” she told Garcia-Navarro.

The journalist went on to clarify whether Gomez specifically meant “emotional abuse,” and she confirmed his inquiry. “Yes, and I think that it’s something that — I had to find a way to understand it as an adult. And I had to understand the choices I was making,” she said.

“As much as I definitely don’t want to spend the rest of my life talking about this, I am really proud that I can say I feel the strongest I’ve ever felt, and I’ve found a way to just walk through it with as much grace as possible.”

The 27-year-old also admitted that she was especially proud of her first single off of the album, “Lose You To Love Me.”

“I’m very proud of it. It has a different meaning to me now from when I wrote it. I felt I didn’t get a respectful closure, and I had accepted that, but I know I needed some way to just say a few things that I wish I had said,” Gomez explained.

“It’s not a hateful song; it’s a song that is saying — I had something beautiful, and I would never deny that it wasn’t that. It was very difficult, and I’m happy it’s over. And I felt like this was a great way to just say, you know, it’s done, and I understand that and I respect that, and now here I am stepping into a whole other chapter.”

Since the interview has been shared online, Bieber has not addressed Gomez’s comments about the “emotional abuse” during their relationship.

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Selena Gomez attends the American Music Awards at Microsoft Theater on Nov. 24, 2019, in Los Angeles. Taylor Hill/FilmMagic